♡ ♕ သတိ♕ ♡ အပ်ိဳစစ္စစ္မ်ားအဆုံးထိဖတ္ရန္၊ Living Together Before Marriage

အပ်ိဳ စစ္စစ္ မ်ားသာ ဖတ္ရန္ ေခါင္းစဥ္ၾကည့္ျပီး တမ်ိဳး မထင္ပါနဲ ့ေနာ္ အအိုေတြဖတ္မိရင္ စိတ္ဓါတ္က်မွာစိုးလို ့ပါ အပ်ိဳစစ္စစ္ဆိုတာက ခုေခတ္က ၁၆ နွစ္၁၇နွစ္ ဆိုရင္ကို ရည္းစားက ရွိေနၾကတာ ။ ရည္းစားျဖစ္တာ ၁ ရက္မၾကားဘူး living together က ေနေနၾကျပီေလ တကယ္ေတာ့ လက္မ ထပ္ ရေသးပဲနဲ ့အတူတူေနၾကတာ မိန္းခေလးတစ္ေယာက္အတြက္ လံုးဝတန္ဖိုးက်သြားပါျပီ အပ်ိဳစင္ ဘဝဆိုတာ ေယာက်ၤားတိုင္းရဲ ့ တန္ဖိုး ထားျခင္း ကို ခံထားရသူလို ့ေတာင္ တင္စားထားၾကပါတယ္ အပ်ိဳစင္ကေန အအို ျဖစ္ဖို ့က ၅မိနစ္မၾကာပါဘူး ။ ဒါေပမယ့္ အအိုကေန အပ်ိဳ ျပန္ျဖစ္ ဖို ့က ရွိသမွ် စည္းစိမ္း ပံုေပးမယ္ဆိုရင္ေတာ့ ဒီ ဘဝအတြက္ျပန္မရနိုင္ေတာ့ပါဘူး ခ်စ္သူရွိခဲ့ရင္လည္း ဒီအပ်ိဳစင္ဘဝကို ထိန္းသိမ္းပါ။

ခ်စ္သူကို နားလည္ေအာင္ သူသေဘာေပါက္ေအာင္ ေျပာျပထားပါ။ ဒါမွ သူဘက္က လက္မခံဘူး ။စိတ္ခုသြားတယ္ဆိုရင္ေတာ့ ရဲရဲၾကီးသာ လမ္းခြဲ လိုက္ ပါ။ သူ တကယ္ခ်စ္တာမဟုတ္တာေသခ်ာေနပါျပီ။ေသေလာက္ေအာင္ခ်စ္ေနပါေစ အပ်ိဳစင္ ဘဝကိုထိန္း သိမ္း ထားပါ။ ဘဝမွာ ရည္းစားဦး နဲ ့ လြဲ က် တာ ၁၀၀မွာ ၉၀ အထိ ရွိထား တာပါ။ ရည္းစားဦးကတည္းက အပ်ိဳစင္ဘဝကို ေပးထားခဲ့လို ့။ အေၾကာင္းတစ္ခုခုေၾကာင့္ သူနဲ ့မ်ား လြဲသြားခဲ့ ရင္ ေနာင္တြင္ ကိုယ္နဲ ့တကယ္လက္ တြဲရ မယ့္   ေယာက်ၤားနဲ ့ေတြ ့မွာ အၾကီးၾကီးေနာင္တရပါလိမ့္မယ္ ။

အဲက်မွေတာ့ ေနာင္တရ ပါတယ္လို ့သိသြား လည္းေနာက္က်သြားပါျပီ။အခန္ ့မသင့္ရင္ အိမ္ေထာင္ေရျပသာနာေတြေတာသ္ျဖစ္လာနိုင္ပါတယ္။ ထိုင္ဝမ္ မွာ အိမ္ထာင္ က်ျပီးလို ့ကေလးေတာင္ ၃ေယာက္ ရျပီးမွ အပ်ိဳဘဝတုန္းက ရည္းစားေဟာင္း နဲ ့အတူတူေန ခဲ့တဲ့ video ဖိုင္ေတြ laptop ကေနတဆင့္ျပန္ ့ျပီး အိမ္ေထာင္ေရး ကြဲသြားခဲ့တာ တကယ္လက္ေတြ ့ပါ။ အတုမယူသင့္ တာေတာ့ အတုမယူပါနဲ ့ညီမတို ့။ (ေနာက္ တစ္တစ္ခု အြန္ လိုင္းမွာ status တင္ရင္ လည္း   ေစာက္ ဘာျဖစ္   ေစာက္ညာျဖစ္တယ္ ။ အဲလို ေစာက္ေတြ ထည့္ထည့္ျပီး ရိုင္းတာေတြ မတင္ က်ဖို ့ လည္း   ေတာင္း ဆိုပါတယ္။ ကိုယ္ဟာကုိယ္ ဘာထင္ေန လဲေတာ့မသိပါ။

အမ်ားအျမင္မွာ အရမ္းရိုင္းတဲ့မိန္းမဆိုတာေတာ့ လူတိုင္းအထင္ေသး သြားတတ္ၾက ပါ တယ္။ ) မိန္းမတစ္ေယာက္ရဲ ့တန္ဖိုးဆိုတာ လွတာ ခ်မ္းသာ တာ ကို ေျပာတာ မဟူတ္ပါဘူး ။ အပ်ိဳစင္ ဘဝကိုေျပာထားတာပါ ။ ေသေလာက္ေအာင္ လွေနပါေစ လက္မ ထပ္ေသး ပဲ အအိုျဖစ္သြားရင္ မိန္းမ တန္ ဖိုး က က်သြားျပီ ဆိုတာ သတိရွိၾကပါ ညီမငယ္တို ့ living together ( လက္မထပ္ေသး ပဲ အတူတူေနျခင္း) ဘဝမွာ ဆင္ခ်င္နိုင္ၾက ပါေစ ။

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Living Together Before Marriage

It’s no secret that many couples are cohabiting, that is, living together in a sexual relationship without marriage. Currently, 60% of all marriages are preceded by cohabitation, but fewer than half of cohabiting unions end in marriage.

Many couples believe – mistakenly – that cohabitation will lower their risk of divorce. This is an understandable misconception, since many people are the children of divorce, or have other family members or friends who have divorced. Other reasons for living together include convenience, financial savings, companionship and security, and a desire to move out of their parent’s house.

What social science says about cohabitation?

  • On average, marriage preceded by cohabitation is 46% more likely to end in divorce.
  • The risk is greatest for “serial” cohabitors who have had multiple relationships.
  • Some studies indicate that those who live together with definite plans for marriage are at minimal risk; however, there are no positive effects from cohabiting.
  • Cohabitation puts children at risk. Forty percent of cohabiting households include children. After five years, one-half of these couples will have broken up, compared to 15% of married parents.

Cohabitation and Catholic Church teaching

Every act of sexual intercourse is intended by God to express love, commitment and openness to life in the total gift of the spouses to each other. Sexual intercourse outside of marriage cannot express what God intended. Rather, it says something false–a total commitment that the couple does not yet have. This total commitment is possible only in marriage.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church points out that some couples claim a right to live together if they intend to marry later on. Although the couple may be sincere in their intention, the Catechism stresses that human love is not compatible with “trial marriages.” Rather, “it demands a total and definitive gift of persons to one another.”

Cohabitation and marriage preparation

If you are a cohabiting couple who has chosen to marry, the Catholic Church welcomes your decision to marry. Because cohabitation can have an effect on the marriage, couples are encouraged to explore certain questions with the pastoral minister who is preparing them for marriage. These include:

  • Why did you choose to live together?
  • What did you learn from the experience of living together?
  • Why did you decide to marry?
  • Why do you wish to marry in the Catholic Church?
  • What does marriage as a sacrament mean to you?

Pastoral ministers may encourage cohabiting couples without children to separate for a period before marriage as a sign of their free, loving decision to follow the Church’s vision of marriage and sexuality. Couples are also encouraged to receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

People have a right to marry; therefore, cohabiting couples are not denied marriage in the Catholic Church solely because they are cohabiting. However, cohabitation may raise questions, for example, about the couple’s freedom to marry, that need to be explored.

Content on this page has been taken from the US Bishops Conference website For Your Marriage. Used with permission.

 

In Defense of Marriage

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